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Saturday, February 18, 2012

"If she did it once, she'll do it with anyone"
Posted by Jill | 6:20 PM
I might as well come out and admit it: There was a semester when I was in college when I had sex with a number of different men. It wasn't some great feminist act of defiance against conventionality, it was nothing that noble. It was a cynical calculation that "If that's the way the game is played, that's how I'll play it" combined with an even more cynical "If I let you fuck me, will you shut up and leave me alone?" "Saving it" for someone who back then I figured wouldn't be much different from these clowns seemed like a silly thing to do. If I was attracted to someone, I did it because there seemed no compelling reason not to. I'm not proud of it, but I'm not ashamed of it either. It's something I did, I was lucky enough and smart enough to protect myself against STDs and pregnancy, and I was lucky in that I did this at a different college than the one I attended. A friend of mine did the same thing at our school and got such a "reputation" (and yes, in 1973 they did use that word) that she ended up dropping out of school. When I got a "reputation", I was able to just stop going to parties at that school. The next year I met a guy whom I dated throughout the rest of college, I went on with my life, dated until I met the guy I married, got married, built my career, and was none the worse for wear.

The thing that struck me most, even while all this was going on almost thirty years ago, was what I even then called "The Double Standard After the Fact." It goes like this: A guy would pester you incessantly to go to bed with him, and after you did, he dropped you because if you did it with him, it meant you'd do it with anyone. That this kind of sentiment devalued the men who had it never seemed to enter their minds. It never occurred to them that you bedded them because you found them irresistable, or interesting, or because you thought they had gorgeous eyes. They thought you'd fuck anything that moved. It really wasn't until a few years later, after I ran into the same thing while dating, that I realized that this sentiment said more about how small these men felt about themselves than it said about me.

I've been thinking about the Double Standard After the Fact this week as the heinous Virginia Let The State Stick A Probe In You For Punishment bill has wound its way towards almost certain signature by that grinning sack of shit Bob McDonnell, who thinks that the All Your Vaginas Are Belong To Us sentiment that this represents is a sure win among the mindless, grinning half-human wreckage that supports the GOP these days. The reaction to the perfectly sane outrage over women being forced to submit to state-sponsored penetration as punishment for daring to not wanting to carry a parasite to term has been very telling.

Here's CNN correspondent and piece of human detritus Dana Loesch:

"...they had no problem having similar to a trans-vaginal procedure when they engaged in the act that resulted in their pregnancy."

Got that? Bet you didn't know that if you ever had consensual sex even once in your life, you were consenting to having anyone, including the State, put anything they want to into your vagina whenever they want to. If you ARE ever raped and you've ever had sex (presumably the "sodomized virgin" exception still holds in these people's minds), good luck getting it prosecuted if this is the kind of society in which we're going to be living.

New York weatherman Tex Antoine was fired from Eyewitness News in 1976 for "quipping" after a report about the rape of a five-year-old girl, "With rape so predominant in the news lately, it is well to remember the words of Confucius: 'If rape is inevitable, lie back and enjoy it.'" Today he'd be hired by Andrew Breitbart and have his own show on Fox News.

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Blogger Buffy said...

Got that? Bet you didn't know that if you ever had consensual sex even once in your life, you were consenting to having anyone, including the State, put anything they want to into your vagina whenever they want to.

Going by that logic I should be able to legally rob any rich person I want. They'd have no defense in court. If they've ever given money away willingly, either to purchase something, as a gift, to a charity or for any other purpose, then they've consented to have it taken from them by anybody who wants it.

Blogger Jimbo said...
We're talking about Ken Cuccinelli, the VA Attorney General, the latest misogynist GOP asshole, among a long line of them. VA is now really two states, culturally: Northern VA, which is an extension of DC nowadays and is largely alienated from the GOP and Cantor's Southern VA, which is still wing-nut country. The latter is dying off every year and this year's GOP primary is the wounded, thrashing, wildebeest lashing out against the future.

Blogger Grung_e_Gene said...
Dana Loesch is that class of woman who has sprung asexually from the breast of Phyliss Schlafly.

She will never run the Party but she is given an extremely deep amount of power over a very limited area. To ensure women are subjugated and remade second class citizens.

She can also espouse the most heinous beliefs of Right-Wingery because conservatives feel her status as a woman will provide her a level of armoring not afforded the Racist Limbaugh's of the Right.